The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life. I know, this book is with f#ck in the title. It sounds terrible? I must admit the title piqued my curiosity and I went for it. Well, forget that F* word, the book explains a useful philosophy that can help us to rethink how we live in today’s world in which we worry about many, many unimportant things every day. The author clearly attempts to encourage all of us to embrace the “suck” in our lives and to reflect on our values and our work. Below are a few interesting quotes:
“The key to a good life is not giving a fuck about more; it’s giving a fuck about less, giving a fuck about only what is true and immediate and important.”
“Because when you give too many fucks—when you give a fuck about everyone and everything—you will feel that you’re perpetually entitled to be comfortable and happy at all times, that everything is supposed to be just exactly the fucking way you want it to be. This is a sickness. And it will eat you alive. You will see every adversity as an injustice, every challenge as a failure, every inconvenience as a personal slight, every disagreement as a betrayal. You will be confined to your own petty, skull-sized hell, burning with entitlement and bluster, running circles around your very own personal Feedback Loop from Hell, in constant motion yet arriving nowhere.”
“If you want to change how you see your problems, you have to change what you value and/or how you measure failure/success.”
I know this is all easier said than done! And yes, the author made some good points that have been made very many times by many other self-help book authors. Loads of Buddhist texts also detail this living-a-happy-life approach. I think this book might have less impact on you if you’re above 40 years of age like me; we have learned quite a lot of those hard truths for ourselves. After all, nothing in the entire world hasn’t been thought of or written before.
If you are now spending way too much time on trivial things in your life, you may want to give that book a try. You might be able to use a lesson or two from it. And also, the book is very funny and entertaining (you may laugh a lot along the way).